http://astepmomshaven.aimoo.comAimoo CityAimooen-USAimoo http://astepmomshaven.aimoo.com/ReplyID-3819266/TopicID-677857/GoToTopic.html river7 2009-11-21 19:15:15.003 General Discussion I wanted to add...My sister and her ex went through a hellish divorce, he was cheating and left the family. They had two children 12 and 8 at the time. He along with the 12 year old boy decided that he would have custody of the boy and she custody of the girl. My sister made more money at the time, http://astepmomshaven.aimoo.com/ReplyID-3819218/TopicID-674844/GoToTopic.html river7 2009-11-21 18:58:10.16 General Discussion Sd made it a point to inform dh that her relationship with her bio was the best it had ever been, that they are bonding and getting along famously. This comment sums it up...the truth of the matter is if/when bio and sd get along famously, then there can't be any relationship w/dh. Bio can't have a http://astepmomshaven.aimoo.com/ReplyID-3819184/TopicID-674024/GoToTopic.html river7 2009-11-21 18:43:48.067 General Discussion He spends more time and resources trying to avoid or get around the rules then just trying to follow them.. http://astepmomshaven.aimoo.com/ReplyID-3819179/TopicID-672687/GoToTopic.html river7 2009-11-21 18:41:31.127 General Discussion He seems to be doing better...maybe something we've been saying is getting through to him.. http://astepmomshaven.aimoo.com/ReplyID-3819177/TopicID-673429/GoToTopic.html river7 2009-11-21 18:40:02.347 General Discussion I should be used to these attitudes and simply expect them, but some times I still can be shocked and surprised at how low people will go. The step-dad definitely has a hard on for dh, always has, just hates him...Even back when sd was much younger this guy wanted to punish her for things she did ov http://astepmomshaven.aimoo.com/ReplyID-3812947/TopicID-677857/GoToTopic.html river7 2009-11-20 21:01:18.363 General Discussion I certainly do wish you the very best of luck, maybe you will get a common sense, unbiased magistrate , I will pray you do..I really do believe there is a double standard when it comes to CS. When we went to court and the GAL was recommending custody of both kids go to dh...he strongly suggested tha http://astepmomshaven.aimoo.com/ReplyID-0/TopicID-677947/GoToTopic.html river7 2009-11-20 20:06:09.097 General Discussion My ex is very much into following the black Friday sales, he is  planning and plotting to get a rock bottom price on a TV. I'm wondering if the public should wise up and simply boycott these sales, especially after the death of the wal-mart employee, last year. Each year our walmart seems to se http://astepmomshaven.aimoo.com/ReplyID-0/TopicID-677857/GoToTopic.html Wende72 2009-11-20 15:31:22.317 General Discussion Well it will all be said and done soon.  We have court on Tuesday at 11:30am.  Wish us luck.  The only thing we are concerned about is the child support. I talked to OSD tonight.  She finally worked up the nerve to call me and ask me if she could bring the baby her birthday gift. http://astepmomshaven.aimoo.com/ReplyID-3790534/TopicID-673429/GoToTopic.html blondalmost 2009-11-17 12:28:36.78 General Discussion some ppl have to put others down to makethemselves feel better you sd's sf sounds like that kind of person......but the it is quite obvious that he is unstable. If he was not unstable how in the world could he live with bm. http://astepmomshaven.aimoo.com/ReplyID-3790525/TopicID-672687/GoToTopic.html blondalmost 2009-11-17 12:24:42.31 General Discussion ds is the problem here if I could get him to do what he is supposed to do for one day then that would be great but no he has to be a pita everyday. http://astepmomshaven.aimoo.com/ReplyID-3790508/TopicID-674024/GoToTopic.html blondalmost 2009-11-17 12:19:40.53 General Discussion Well when he wants to keep the car after you ground him from in because he still lives under your roof maybe he will try to live in his car.What are these kids thinking and I am not speaking of yours alone but mine too. they have all lost their minds http://astepmomshaven.aimoo.com/ReplyID-3790501/TopicID-674844/GoToTopic.html blondalmost 2009-11-17 12:16:57.5 General Discussion Maybe she should work on their relationship and it will probably improve drasticly http://astepmomshaven.aimoo.com/ReplyID-0/TopicID-674844/GoToTopic.html river7 2009-11-16 19:35:11.873 General Discussion Isn't that funny, called him on her birthday  after ss went out there and gave her hell. I think it was one of those long pause conversations...apparently she feels they need to work on their relahonship. http://astepmomshaven.aimoo.com/ReplyID-0/TopicID-674024/GoToTopic.html river7 2009-11-15 19:35:23.28 General Discussion This is the type of crap I am dealing with and it just ticks me off...Ss drives our car, we have simple rules that he is expected to follow...He was threatened with losing the car, cause he wasn't following them. So instead of just trying to follow them he tells us he's going to buy his own car...I http://astepmomshaven.aimoo.com/ReplyID-3777649/TopicID-672687/GoToTopic.html river7 2009-11-15 18:59:44.327 General Discussion Our rules are pretty simple1. Take care of your own personal business, showering, teeth, laundry, keep your own belongings together and cleaned up. Change your sheets when they get dirty and do not wear dirty clothing !!!!! see he will stop everything he is doing to cater to the girl. If she calls a http://astepmomshaven.aimoo.com/ReplyID-3773454/TopicID-672687/GoToTopic.html bbbsstepmom 2009-11-15 02:39:10.507 General Discussion Honey all i know to tell you is that he is a typical teenage boy.  My SS would much rather be doing other things too than chores, but he knows if he doesn't do them, he doesn't get to go any where.  He did ask if he could get a job and we said yes, under a few conditions.  1. He has t http://astepmomshaven.aimoo.com/ReplyID-0/TopicID-673429/GoToTopic.html river7 2009-11-14 20:37:20.85 General Discussion Apparently sd is having a huge party, everyone and their brother are invited...but us, of course  Just one more thing to add to the list..So I had a conversation /ss because he got grounded from the car and wanted us to let him have the car so he could go to her party. First I thought why be so http://astepmomshaven.aimoo.com/ReplyID-0/TopicID-672687/GoToTopic.html river7 2009-11-13 21:01:34.973 General Discussion He is 18 going to be 19 soon...he lives here full-time, has a 16 year old GF, works part-time, goes to school full-time. That being said here's the issue, he wants to spend every single moment with this girl. He ignores any other responsibility, he often lies. Like he will say he really wants to go http://astepmomshaven.aimoo.com/ReplyID-3757352/TopicID-670697/GoToTopic.html river7 2009-11-12 20:19:22.14 General Discussion I wanted to add...what's so wrong with saying who the heck cares, do what you want, not my problem  and just opt out. Ss is 18 now, sd is turning 16 in a few days. It's been a long road, a difficult one more often then not, but looking back I brought alot of the frustration onto myself, worryin http://astepmomshaven.aimoo.com/ReplyID-3754310/TopicID-670697/GoToTopic.html river7 2009-11-12 07:11:32.93 General Discussion Been there done it LOL  it's so frustrating. I always have felt that having siblings living in different homes, different rules with parents that do not speak is just sooo wrong. We've lived this way for years, and it's FRUSTRATING to say the least. Your hands are tied cause gosh forbid yo http://astepmomshaven.aimoo.com/ReplyID-0/TopicID-670697/GoToTopic.html Wende72 2009-11-11 14:05:59.54 General Discussion I am so wiped out by all this crap with OSD and bio.  Bio hasnt visited or even called YSD since June.  Now that OSD is living with bio skank, things just suck.  Tonight OSD called YSD and was talking to her.  She asked YSD if she thought we would let the baby have a birthday gif http://astepmomshaven.aimoo.com/ReplyID-3749149/TopicID-668931/GoToTopic.html Wende72 2009-11-11 13:51:06.947 General Discussion My kids are healthy, my dh adores me, my mom and dad are a constant source of support, and I have a great job with a very understanding boss.  Most of all, I am grateful for my miracle baby.  She is the truest joy in my life and keeps me going no matter how bad things look.  I could f http://astepmomshaven.aimoo.com/ReplyID-3742779/TopicID-668931/GoToTopic.html river7 2009-11-10 19:50:10.37 General Discussion I'm grateful for my family, my sister is a doll, my Aunts are special... http://astepmomshaven.aimoo.com/ReplyID-3735012/TopicID-668931/GoToTopic.html river7 2009-11-09 20:07:09.337 General Discussion I'm grateful that my kids and dh are healthy... http://astepmomshaven.aimoo.com/ReplyID-0/TopicID-668931/GoToTopic.html river7 2009-11-09 20:06:16.947 General Discussion I know everyone seems to be having some hard times these days, it helps me to think of what's really important. I thought we could start a grateful post... http://astepmomshaven.aimoo.com/ReplyID-3707050/TopicID-664978/GoToTopic.html river7 2009-11-05 20:17:16.993 General Discussion This is a tough one, you're right. My youngest was born during the litigation over sd. Bio tried to do everything she could to interfere with sd having a relashionship with him. She attacked me, made my baby a matter of court record, it was all very stressful...That being said....sd seemed to genuin http://astepmomshaven.aimoo.com/ReplyID-3699972/TopicID-654456/GoToTopic.html river7 2009-11-04 21:38:55.56 General Discussion Maybe it hits me harder cause of my grandfathers death..sure he and I argued,like every parent had our ups and downs but I was lucky enough to have my dad (grandfather) for 37 years of my life, we came full circle. Like my husbands boss, just found out he has cancer and it's quite serious, he's http://astepmomshaven.aimoo.com/ReplyID-0/TopicID-664978/GoToTopic.html Wende72 2009-11-04 13:50:26.937 General Discussion OSD as you know moved out on bad terms 3+ weeks ago to live with bio.  I talked to her once on the phone and during that call I mentioned that DH and I are doing all we possibly can to keep YSD out of all the talk about court and such, and informed OSD that I hope for her sister's sake she woul http://astepmomshaven.aimoo.com/ReplyID-3698313/TopicID-654456/GoToTopic.html Wende72 2009-11-04 13:29:09.81 General Discussion Boy do I know how you feel.  I always worried we would someday be in the same boat, but hoped differently.  The whole thing just really sucks...for everyone involved. Hang in there Wende   http://astepmomshaven.aimoo.com/ReplyID-0/TopicID-662491/GoToTopic.html river7 2009-11-01 18:53:57.367 General Discussion Something about fall and winter, approaching holidays that makes my heart ache for Dad. Dad would say people die, happens everyday, part of life don't dwell...I can't help but to dwell, and dwell daily. I know if there is a heaven dad is there cause he was a god fearing man, who paid his dues, lived http://astepmomshaven.aimoo.com/ReplyID-0/TopicID-662484/GoToTopic.html river7 2009-11-01 18:36:53.617 General Discussion The baby seems to be doing fine now...Cat scratch fever has just about run it's course. The lumps in his arm pit are just about gone. I was so frightened, thinking the worst possible scenario's. Dd is trying every drop of patience I have....she has pretty much moved out with boyfriend. I'm relieved http://astepmomshaven.aimoo.com/ReplyID-3678871/TopicID-660994/GoToTopic.html river7 2009-11-01 18:29:35.853 General Discussion Hang in there...is all I can say. I know it's cliche but what doesn't kill us absolutely makes us stronger,wiser and better. I think everyone has alot of $$ worries right now, seems to be gripping our nation and doesn't look like it's going to turn around anytime soon. The whole money and stepkid/co http://astepmomshaven.aimoo.com/ReplyID-0/TopicID-660994/GoToTopic.html Wende72 2009-10-30 12:31:54.993 General Discussion Tired of struggling so much when there is nothing really more we can do to make things $$ better.   Tired already of wondering and worrying what is going to happen with all this supposed court crap.  Tired of being careful of what I say around my other stepdaughter so we can keep her http://astepmomshaven.aimoo.com/ReplyID-3665150/TopicID-658653/GoToTopic.html Wende72 2009-10-30 11:51:32.82 General Discussion So happy for you guys.  I cant wait until we are done.  Hopefully all this shit with Alexis will result in us not paying CS on her since SHE moved out and will be 18 in December anyway.  Worst case scenario we have to pay on her until May 23 of next year, but bio will be screwed then http://astepmomshaven.aimoo.com/ReplyID-3645147/TopicID-658653/GoToTopic.html river7 2009-10-27 18:45:19.803 General Discussion My dh works with a fella, who lives in PA and he was ever so happy when his dd turned 18 and thought that was the end of his CS obligation...He lives in Oh. ex lives in PA. She took him back to court and he was ordered to continue to pay . I don't know the exact details but he was pissed...to say th http://astepmomshaven.aimoo.com/ReplyID-0/TopicID-658653/GoToTopic.html cpool103 2009-10-27 09:49:48.85 General Discussion In 3 weeks and counting hubby will finally be done paying child support. His daughter gratuated this past June from high school, and will turn 18. Hubby called FOC and asked how he went about ending it, they told him they already had his file flagged in the computer, (based on SD's birthdate), he di http://astepmomshaven.aimoo.com/ReplyID-0/TopicID-657402/GoToTopic.html river7 2009-10-25 20:15:33.803 General Discussion The lump under his arm hasn't changed much...I keep checking it every day  I'm a little nervous, we have a follow up on Thursday and I keep hoping it goes down before then..He seems to feel better, says it doesn't hurt anymore.. http://astepmomshaven.aimoo.com/ReplyID-3612039/TopicID-654452/GoToTopic.html bbbsstepmom 2009-10-22 23:38:46.53 General Discussion Awww poor kitty http://astepmomshaven.aimoo.com/ReplyID-0/TopicID-654456/GoToTopic.html river7 2009-10-21 19:36:10.557 General Discussion You know this whole thing with sd is so upsetting for me...I have tried to get to the root of things because sometimes I just hate the very thought of her, believe her to be a liar and trouble making manipulator and feel maybe it's best she doesn't come around and other times I feel bad, like d http://astepmomshaven.aimoo.com/ReplyID-0/TopicID-654452/GoToTopic.html river7 2009-10-21 19:25:54.103 General Discussion When I had taken kitty into the VET for the cat scratch fever, the VET said he believed kitty to have a pretty serious heart condition. He said he could tell by listening that there was something seriously wrong, probably a birth defect, the heart would not be strong enough to sustain her as she gre http://astepmomshaven.aimoo.com/ReplyID-3603528/TopicID-653602/GoToTopic.html river7 2009-10-21 18:42:59.12 General Discussion What a mess, it's so hard to love skids when they do stuff like this, it leaves lasting damage doesn't it . The courts do seem to allow kids to make their own custody choices even at 11, remember our litigation with sd. Ss's girlfriend was failing all her classes, running around doing god knows what http://astepmomshaven.aimoo.com/ReplyID-0/TopicID-653602/GoToTopic.html Wende72 2009-10-20 13:21:10.09 General Discussion Well, osd has been up to no good for 2 years now.  Bio has spent that time undermining us until the ground has finally fallen beneath our feet.  We caught osd in blatant, bald faced lie last Monday night...without even addressing the issue, she blew up and said that was it, she'd had enoug http://astepmomshaven.aimoo.com/ReplyID-3575665/TopicID-649913/GoToTopic.html river7 2009-10-17 18:26:49.62 General Discussion Dr. and Vet didn't seem to think that it was all that horrible...Dr. said they would check him again in two weeks. The VET said that cat scratch fever is hit or miss,only certain people develop symptoms. They did say that people with hyper sensitive auto-immune systems seem to be at greatest risk. I http://astepmomshaven.aimoo.com/ReplyID-3571520/TopicID-649913/GoToTopic.html bbbsstepmom 2009-10-17 03:22:00.65 General Discussion I dunno honey... They probably spazzed over me cause I was scheduled to have surgery 3 weeks after I got bit and scratched.  And this was not a little scratch either.... I will post the pictures for you if I can get the computer to act right. http://astepmomshaven.aimoo.com/ReplyID-3570244/TopicID-649913/GoToTopic.html river7 2009-10-17 00:27:34.293 General Discussion OMG I was told by the vet and the pediatrician that there was no need to worry, and no need to put the cat down. I was told it's a normal bacteria that cats carry everyday and that kittens have a tendency to scratch and 4 years olds have a tendency to get scratched. http://astepmomshaven.aimoo.com/ReplyID-3570098/TopicID-649913/GoToTopic.html bbbsstepmom 2009-10-17 00:05:06.45 General Discussion Oh honey that sucks!  Our little neighbor girl had it last year and was in the hospital for 2 weeks.  That fricking cat that scratched her ending up attacking me back in April.  Because the crazy thing hadn't had its shots, I had to be put on antibiotics for 2 weeks and the health dep http://astepmomshaven.aimoo.com/ReplyID-0/TopicID-650746/GoToTopic.html river7 2009-10-16 20:39:37.213 General Discussion We found out a few months back that MIL had been paying all BIL's for the last 2-3 years, everything house payments,taxes insurance even grocery. Also provided cars for them and for their teenage daughters! Dh has been hounded for years to "help" his brother, MIL is always calling wanting him to go http://astepmomshaven.aimoo.com/ReplyID-0/TopicID-650724/GoToTopic.html river7 2009-10-16 20:11:40.62 General Discussion Some of you may remember my old job, preschool teacher for 11 years at a small religious school. I loved my job!! I was devastated when I got fired out of the blue by a new principal shortly before I had the baby (gosh almost 5 years now) anyways the new principal was not doing her job, right from t http://astepmomshaven.aimoo.com/ReplyID-3568455/TopicID-649913/GoToTopic.html river7 2009-10-16 19:34:14.697 General Discussion I also was under the impression it was only a silly song LOL nope it's a real life illness, I think bacterial, if he doesn't improve some he will be placed on a course of antibiotics...My dr. is one of those that likes to avoid antibiotics cause of people becoming resistant and all. I wish he would http://astepmomshaven.aimoo.com/ReplyID-3568447/TopicID-644918/GoToTopic.html river7 2009-10-16 19:30:56.917 General Discussion The girl is his whole entire life, I don't think he could honestly even function now without her constant input into everything. Dh just despises the girl and I warned him to ease up a bit cause she WILL be the mother of his first grandchild, that WILL be in cards sooner then later,no getting around